Here’s Why I Love My Cuddle Buddy and Why You Should Get One Too
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It’s a tough time for hopeless romantics like myself. Between situationships, ghosting, sneaky links, red-pilled rants, and those 50/50 debates (please, spare me), the dating landscape feels like a minefield.
So, it’s no surprise that more and more women are stepping away from sex and dating, opting out entirely.
I can relate. My own casual dating history left me exhausted and unfulfilled, realizing that most of these connections lacked real depth and compassion. So, I decided to hold off until someone truly worth my time came along. While the detachment can be hard, I’m realizing I don’t have to deprive myself of affection entirely.
Instead of falling into the usual casual hook-ups or adding another sneaky link to the roster, I found an alternative that feels way less transactional and more meaningful: the cuddle buddy.
Hear me out–it’s time to give cuddle buddies the attention they deserve. Not enough people talk about having a cuddle buddy, but I’m here to put y’all on. For one thing, cuddling has real mental and physical benefits, and it’s just simply amazing.
I know what you’re thinking, cuddling often gets lumped in with sex, but it’s so much more than that. By seeing it as only a pre- or post-sex activity, we miss out on all the sensual satisfaction it provides. Cuddling without any sexual strings attached can improve well-being and even strengthen bonds. After a long, stressful day, cozying up with someone releases oxytocin (hello, “love hormone”) and lowers cortisol levels (goodbye, moon face).
I’m surprised more people haven’t jumped on the cuddle buddy train. Beyond the obvious perks, it’s a fantastic option for those who don’t identify with the heteronormative ways of dating.
AZE, a journal on asexuality and aromanticism, sheds light on this perfectly. Founder Michael Paramo describes it as “sensual attraction” — the desire to engage physically without necessarily leading to sex or romance. This includes wanting to hug, cuddle, or hold hands in a way that’s intimate but free of expectations. In a society that often sees sex as the “highest” form of connection, this reframe gives us room to enjoy closeness on our terms.
As someone whose love language is physical touch, cuddling comes naturally. Whether it’s snuggling up with a close friend, family member, or even a stuffed animal, there are so many ways to give and receive affection that don’t come with the pressure of dating or sex.
Constantly attaching sex to sensual acts is limiting, and a little weird. I’d hate to live in a world where holding hands with my best friend could be perceived as something more than platonic.
Contrary to what society tries to make us believe, we’re not just sex objects—we’re multidimensional beings capable of experiencing connection in countless ways. Cuddling is a perfect example; it’s intimate yet non-invasive. With the right boundaries in place, a cuddle buddy can bring passion and warmth into our lives without jumping into anything too serious.
I urge everyone—women, men, and folks of all sexual orientations—to challenge the status quo in modern dating. Let’s stop treating every first date like an invitation to sex, and instead understand our limitations. If you’re not yet ready to take that plunge, you can always keep it cozy with a cuddle buddy!