Canceled Plans: Unpacking the Homebody Conundrum
Let’s get real for a second: as much as going out and partying can be fun, so can staying home and binge-watching Power. Yet, since going out is the preference for so many young Black adults, being a homebody might get you side-eyed. With all the energy poured into nightlife culture, it can feel like there’s pressure to prioritize revelry over solitude.
There’s no doubt that our culture heavily glamorizes partying, especially in big nightlife cities like Atlanta and Miami. From influencers boasting Don Julio bottles and VIP sections to rappers pushing club culture in every song, it seems like everyone is always at some function, drinking and having a good time.
For a lot of us, it feels like going out isn’t just an option but a lifestyle expectation.
The pressure to conform can be intense. Remember when Nardo Wick got called “boring” because he didn’t drink or smoke? Even now, rappers like Rob49 spit, “Good girls who don’t come outside get cheated on.” The consensus is that if you don’t frequent the party scene, you’re just plain lame.
If you’re a homebody, this message probably rubs you the wrong way—I’m sure you don’t want to be judged for choosing your personal space over nightlife. When you’re the friend who says no to every weekend invite, it’s easy to feel like you’re missing out on being valued or included in “the scene.”
Embracing Being a Homebody
We know not everyone is built for the turn-up. Some people have an aversion to large crowds or feel uncomfortable around substances, but that doesn’t make them any less interesting. One thing I’ve learned about introverts—they know how to create their own fun and lean into their interests. Whether it’s creating art, consuming art, or simply relaxing, homebodies know exactly what puts them in a good mood. In fact, the idea that homebodies are boring is simply a myth; often, they’re deeply engaged with their interests, pursuing passions that bring them fulfillment.
Naturally, most people are a mix of both, going out some weekends and staying in others. But those who truly love staying home are doing the brave act of protecting their peace, even if it means missing out on the social scene. Trust, that you’re not boring or prudish for engaging in your me-time!
Forget the Stigma
The stigma around being a homebody isn’t new, but it’s time to let it go. You don’t need to smoke hookah or go out every weekend to be considered fun and lively. We all have our preferences, and as long as we’re happy, who cares? Knowing what you enjoy and sticking with it—whether it’s a night out or a night in—is one of the best things you can do for yourself.
So, for all the homebodies out here, indulge in the hobbies that make you happiest, and forget about the FOMO (the functions always look better on Instagram anyway). And to those hating on homebodies, try thinking more open-mindedly about how everyone’s idea of fun is different—what works for you might not be the move for someone else.
At the end of the day, whether you’re turning up or turning in, it’s all about finding balance—and there’s no shame in choosing yourself over the noise.